During our lifetime, we will all experience some form of loss.
Grief is a natural response to losing someone or something that was important to you. It is part of life and it can be devastating.
We are all unique with differing values, so our losses will vary significantly.
Here are some shared themes in our Human experience:
- Loss of a loved one (including pets)
- Loss of health
- Significant change
- The loss of a dream or hope
- The loss of security
- Loss of Finances / Wealth
- The loss of predictions about ‘life’
- Loss of Independence
When we lose something or someone, or a person close to you dies, you may experience a range of thoughts and feelings you had not felt before. Shock, denial, intense sadness and fear or even relief are just some of the reactions people go through.
Death is not something we usually talk about openly, it is a topic of conversation held behind closed doors. In the UK, we tend not to openly show our grief and hide away from public displays of emotion. In our ever -increasing busyness, our grief can often be misplaced or suppressed and can leave us feeling isolated and alone. Demands on our time leave little room for self -care and we find life exhausting and overwhelming.
Talking can really help and support you when you are experiencing loss in whatever form in takes. Having undergone previous training and then further qualified in bereavement care with Cruse in 2017, the tools I have gathered enable me to support you and help you adapt and adjust to a different life.
“Living with the losses of life is not so much about getting “over” them, as finding ways to live with them, and live a happy and full life that includes them. Grieving is an experience of making sense of our losses, of getting adjusted to a different life and different expectations; of growing “around” them.” Dr Lois Tonkin